I've always hated when someone is shocked, CANT BELIEVE when someone else doesn't know exactly what they know. Like let's say you know how to change a tire, but Tommy doesn't. For whatever reason, he just doesn't. But when you put Tommy on the spot, you feel like a big man, don't you? You yell at Tommy, you make fun of Tommy in front of everybody, feels good doesn't it?
I'm not a wise man. Believe me, no one on the planet is less aware than me. But I've always come from the point of well, he doesn't know what I know, but he probably knows what I don't know, etc. Ain't a software engineer in the world can draw a truck engine like the kids I rode the bus with as a young buck; while drawing these amazing drafts of engines it was absurd how dead on it was; is this worth any more or less than someone who can memorize Keats?
No.
I've always thought everyone knows a finite number of things. I know how to bale hay, you know how to rotate tires, we're square. At my age I laugh at men who pounce on other dudes who don't know the exact thing as themselves. At a young age I might have wondered why I sucked so bad; as an adult I know and recognize it's your own insecurities flaring up, it's YOUR moment to shine, right? Pounce on the guy! You're a big man! Gee, Xmastime doesn't know how to tile a floor?? he's a loser! let me pile on here!! It's the equivalent of being a bully in the 3rd grade. If you pull this shit you're a bully, which at your age should be even more worthless. "Gee,lemme pounce on so and so's weaknesses cause I know that I have weaknesses of my own." Camon. grow up. We all know the same amount of stuff, we're all geniuses, get out of fucking 7th grade and join the rest of us. Pathetic. The only thing more pathetic than a bully at 12 is a bully at 32. Fucking sad.
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Eat. A. Big. Mac. You big. Weepy. Gaybo.
Effects of Bullying
If you've ever heard an adult - or anyone else - say that bullying is "just a fact of life" or "no big deal," you're not alone! Too often, people just don't take bullying seriously - or until the sad and sometimes scary stories are revealed.
It happens a lot more than some people think - Studies show that between 15-25% of U.S. students are bullied with some frequency, while 15-20% report they bully others with some frequency (Melton et al, 1988; Nansel et al, 2001).
It can mess up a kid's future. Young people who bully are more likely than those who don't bully to skip school and drop out of school. They are also more likely to smoke, drink alcohol and get into fights (Nansel et al, 2003; Olweus, 1993).
It scares some people so much that they skip school. As many as 160,000 students may stay home on any given day because they're afraid of being bullied (Pollack, 1998).
It can lead to huge problems later in life. Children who bully are more likely to get into fights, vandalize property, and drop out of school. And 60% of boys who were bullies in middle school had at least one criminal conviction by the age of 24 (Olweus, 1993).
Tiling a Floor
Use only floor tiles when tiling a floor. There is a difference. Floor and wall tiles may look similar, but floor tiles are generally thicker and are textured to make them safer to walk on. Larger floor tiles will not safely adhere to walls.
Preparing Floors for Tile
The original flooring material should be removed before you install your new tile since the new tile installation is only as good as the underlying floor.
The subfloor must be sound enough to support tile. Tile can be heavy and must be installed on a flat, rigid surface. Subfloors under tile should be no less than 1" thick. A flexing floor will cause cracks to show up in the grout later and may cause tiles to break.
If your floor "bounces" when you walk over it, try adding rigidity by renailing the subfloor to the floor joists. Add bridging between the joists, and/or shim the subfloor with wooden shims driven between the top edge of the joists and the bottom face of the subfloor.
SAFETY NOTE
Never sand or abrade a vinyl floor — older floors may contain asbestos. It is recommended that you have older flooring materials tested before removal, and that materials containing asbestos be removed by a professional.
Uneven or damaged floors are best covered first with an underlayment as the tile base. Cement-fiber board is often recommended by tile manufacturers for use on floors in a moist environment.
If the floor is concrete, repair any holes or cracks. You can sometimes lower high spots using a coarse-grit abrasive on a belt or disc sander. Any minor bumps can be removed with a cold chisel driven by a baby sledge hammer. (Be sure to wear safety glasses.)
If you have linoleum flooring, you can place underlayment over the top of it.
Remove all trim and clean the floor thoroughly. The surface on which you are installing tile must be smooth and free from debris, grease or wax.
Pull out any nails in the trim from the back side. This step keeps the trim from splitting so you can use it again.
For areas subjected to moisture, the underlayment should be sealed with a waterproof membrane or other moisture-resistant product. Cement-fiber board makes an ideal underlayment for tile in wet locations. These boards are often referred to as "cement board". The product is composed of cement and fiber for strength and moisture resistance. It is available in 1/4" and 1/2" thicknesses depending on the application.
What Kind of Pattern Do I Use?
Two examples of tile patterns
The pattern options available when laying tile are virtually endless. However, there are two basic patterns:
A "jack-on-jack" pattern is the most common. The pattern consists of tile laid like squares on a checkerboard.
A "running bond" pattern has offset grout lines for each row.
Either is fairly easy to set, although the running bond pattern is the more difficult of the two.
If you are artistic and doing a project such as a table or countertop, you may want to create a mosaic of small tiles. Applied with artistic skill, tile mosaics can be stunning.
Layout of the Floor Area
Floor tiles should be centered in the room for the best visual appearance. Keep this in mind when you lay out the floor tile.
Measure and find the center of two opposite walls. Use these points to snap a chalk line across the length of the room in the center of the floor, dividing the room in half. Then snap another chalk line perpendicular to the first so the two lines cross in the center of the room. Check where the lines cross with a carpenter's square to make absolutely sure the center point is square.
Find the center of two opposite walls and lay tile along the chalk lines.
Dry-fit a row of tiles down both lines to the width and length of the room. Leave equal spacing for the grout joints. Most floor tiles do not come with spacers like wall tiles do, so you will need to approximate the appropriate spacing.
By laying out the tiles in this way, you can get an idea of any adjustments that need to be made to your original reference lines. The goal is to work with as many full tiles as possible. Also, you should end up with at least half a tile width in the areas where the tiles meet the walls. A slight adjustment at the center point may save you lots of time and money. Adjust the reference lines as necessary to achieve a layout you are satisfied with.
Installing Tile on a Floor
Spread the adhesive with the trowel's notched edge.
Begin laying the tile from the center of the floor where your two final reference lines cross. Start by laying a tile at the intersection of the lines, then use the lines as a guide as you work your way outward toward the walls in each quadrant.
Spread the adhesive with the trowel's notched edge, combing it out in beaded ridges. Spaces between ridges of adhesive should be almost bare.
Good idea: Some ceramic tiles have spacers built into the tile itself. If you desire a wider grout line, use spacers as well.
If you wish, you may insert plastic spacers between the tiles to help maintain straight grout lines if the tiles do not have spacer lugs. Remove these after placing the tile but before they become firmly set in the adhesive.
SAFETY NOTE
Some adhesives emit toxic and flammable fumes. Provide good ventilation, especially in confined locations such as shower stalls. Always refer to the product label for safety precautions.
Exercise caution when using tile-cutting tools.
Use spacers to keep grout lines even.
If adhesive oozes up between the tiles, clean out the excess before it dries. Immediately wipe any adhesive from the face of the tiles with a solvent-soaked sponge or rag. (Consult the manufacturer's instructions to determine the appropriate solvent). Adhesives begin to set firmly in 20 to 30 minutes.
After you have installed several rows of tile, set them into the adhesive with the tile leveler and a mallet.
After laying all the whole tiles that will fit, begin cutting and adhering tiles to fill around the perimeter of the room.
To that dog eat dog Bully Woolley Burger Marley:
I burned the tie you gimme
Never dug it anyway
I'd a wrote you a letter
But I couldn't spell @#$@$
And that's all I got to say
That's all I got to say...
Erp!
Uno, dos, one, two, tres, quatro
Matty told Hatty about a thing she saw.
Had two big horns and a wooly jaw.
Wooly bully, wooly bully.
Wooly bully, wooly bully, wooly bully.
Hatty told Matty, "Let's don't take no chance.
Let's not be L-seven, come and learn to dance."
Wooly bully, wooly bully
Wooly bully, wooly bully, wooly bully.
Matty told Hatty, "That's the thing to do.
Get you someone really to pull the wool with you."
Wooly bully, wooly bully.
Wooly bully, wooly bully, wooly bully!!
Bullying - Not Just for Kids
Bullying is something many people face and it doesn’t always go away once someone has outgrown the schoolyard. Countless adults face emotionally bullies on a daily basis. It can exist within a family dynamic, workplace or even when out socially. Emotional bullying is when someone tries to gain control by making others feel angry or afraid. It is characterized by verbal abuse such as name-calling, sarcasm, teasing, threatening, mocking, putting down, ignoring, and lying. Men and women may face exclusion from a group, tormented, picked on and, humiliation. There are often racially or sexually abusive overtones.
Emotional bullying will not leave a bruise or cause a bleeding nose but the emotional scars are just as real as physical wounds are often more difficult to heal.
It has been defined as social violence since it is just as damaging. In an article in the Toronto Star it is reported that over 50% of the adult population have experienced emotional bullying at work, at home, and in society.
While the most common advice is to ignore the bully or laugh it off, this is easier said than done when faced with repeated occurrences. Even with the understanding that the bully likely has emotional, psychological issues or social deficits, the pain of being the recipient of their pain and anger may not be easier to bear. So, what do you do?
It is important to shift your role from victim. Acknowledge that what is happening to you is bullying and that is it not your fault or that you deserve it. Recognize that it is the bully who has the problem, which is being projected onto you. Think about different responses and select the ones that will improve the situation. Depending on the severity, assess the situation and if you are at physical risk, contact the proper authorities.
Protecting yourself is paramount
Bullying certainly can cause feelings of isolation especially if it appears the bully is not acting alone. It may be there is a person with the bully who can be called a bystander. In many cases this person may identify with the bully and may even help. Sometimes the bystander identifies with victim and feels helpless not wanting to become a target themselves. They might try to avoid the situation or even try to minimize it.
Many studies have shown that if the issue is not addressed the bullying with increase, extend and have a high emotional toll. Within the workplace the results may also include high employee turnover, suspensions, high rate of grievances with disciplinary procedures, and stress-related illnesses.
If you have ever been a bullied as a child or an adult, it is important to note that even upon resolution, the feelings that result may linger.
Talking to a professional, even if it is years after the events can be enlightening and empowering and most of all, healing.
are you still whining about me and will making fun of you for not knowing how to change the drill bit in the cordless????? yeesh. i'm SORRY.
Ha! Naw. Good-natured ballbusting is one thing. I’m talking bout blowhards doing it for real, and in front of other people. Tho it might’ve triggered my thinking (ergo Keats) ;)
Johnny Fontane: Oh, Godfather, I don't know what to do. I don't know what to do.
Don Corleone: [shouts] You can act like a man!
[he slaps Johnny]
Don Corleone: What's the matter with you. Is this how you turned out? A Hollywood finocchio that cries like a woman.
[Don Corleone imitates him sobbing]
Ah, the serial bully.
A convincing, practised liar and when called to account, will make up anything spontaneously to fit their needs at that moment
has a Jekyll and Hyde nature - is vile, vicious and vindictive in private, but innocent and charming in front of witnesses; no-one can (or wants to) believe this individual has a vindictive nature - only the current target of the serial bully's aggression sees both sides; whilst the Jekyll side is described as "charming" and convincing enough to deceive personnel, management and a tribunal, the Hyde side is frequently described as "evil"; Hyde is the real person, Jekyll is an act
excels at deception and should never be underestimated in their capacity to deceive
uses excessive charm and is always plausible and convincing when peers, superiors or others are present (charm can be used to deceive as well as to cover for lack of empathy)
is glib, shallow and superficial with plenty of fine words and lots of form - but there's no substance
is possessed of an exceptional verbal facility and will outmanoeuvre most people in verbal interaction, especially at times of conflict
is often described as smooth, slippery, slimy, ingratiating, fawning, toadying, obsequious, sycophantic
relies on mimicry, repetition and regurgitation to convince others that he or she is both a "normal" human being and a tough dynamic manager, as in extolling the virtues of the latest management fads and pouring forth the accompanying jargon
is unusually skilled in being able to anticipate what people want to hear and then saying it plausibly
cannot be trusted or relied upon
fails to fulfil commitments
is emotionally retarded with an arrested level of emotional development; whilst language and intellect may appear to be that of an adult, the bully displays the emotional age of a five-year-old
is emotionally immature and emotionally untrustworthy
exhibits unusual and inappropriate attitudes to sexual matters, sexual behaviour and bodily functions; underneath the charming exterior there are often suspicions or hints of sex discrimination and sexual harassment, perhaps also sexual dysfunction, sexual inadequacy, sexual perversion, sexual violence or sexual abuse
in a relationship, is incapable of initiating or sustaining intimacy
holds deep prejudices (eg against the opposite gender, people of a different sexual orientation, other cultures and religious beliefs, foreigners, etc - prejudiced people are unvaryingly unimaginative) but goes to great lengths to keep this prejudicial aspect of their personality secret
is self-opinionated and displays arrogance, audacity, a superior sense of entitlement and sense of invulnerability and untouchability
has a deep-seated contempt of clients in contrast to his or her professed compassion
is a control freak and has a compulsive need to control everyone and everything you say, do, think and believe; for example, will launch an immediate personal attack attempting to restrict what you are permitted to say if you start talking knowledgeably about psychopathic personality or antisocial personality disorder in their presence - but aggressively maintains the right to talk (usually unknowledgeably) about anything they choose; serial bullies despise anyone who enables others to see through their deception and their mask of sanity
displays a compulsive need to criticise whilst simultaneously refusing to value, praise and acknowledge others, their achievements, or their existence
shows a lack of joined-up thinking with conversation that doesn't flow and arguments that don't hold water
flits from topic to topic so that you come away feeling you've never had a proper conversation
refuses to be specific and never gives a straight answer
is evasive and has a Houdini-like ability to escape accountability
undermines and destroys anyone who the bully perceives to be an adversary, a potential threat, or who can see through the bully's mask
is adept at creating conflict between those who would otherwise collate incriminating information about them
is quick to discredit and neutralise anyone who can talk knowledgeably about antisocial or sociopathic behaviors
may pursue a vindictive vendetta against anyone who dares to held them accountable, perhaps using others' resources and contemptuous of the damage caused to other people and organisations in pursuance of the vendetta
is also quick to belittle, undermine, denigrate and discredit anyone who calls, attempts to call, or might call the bully to account
gains gratification from denying people what they are entitled to
is highly manipulative, especially of people's perceptions and emotions (eg guilt)
poisons peoples' minds by manipulating their perceptions
when called upon to share or address the needs and concerns of others, responds with impatience, irritability and aggression
is arrogant, haughty, high-handed, and a know-all
often has an overwhelming, unhealthy and narcissistic attention-seeking need to portray themselves as a wonderful, kind, caring and compassionate person, in contrast to their behaviour and treatment of others; the bully sees nothing wrong with their behavior and chooses to remain oblivious to the discrepancy between how they like to be seen and how they are seen by others
is spiritually dead although may loudly profess some religious belief or affiliation
is mean-spirited, officious, and often unbelievably petty
is mean, stingy, and financially untrustworthy
is greedy, selfish, a parasite and an emotional vampire
is always a taker and never a giver
is convinced of their superiority and has an overbearing belief in their qualities of leadership but cannot distinguish between leadership (maturity, decisiveness, assertiveness, co-operation, trust, integrity) and bullying (immaturity, impulsiveness, aggression, manipulation, distrust, deceitfulness)
often fraudulently claims qualifications, experience, titles, entitlements or affiliations which are ambiguous, misleading, or bogus
often misses the semantic meaning of language, misinterprets what is said, sometimes wrongly thinking that comments of a satirical, ironic or general negative nature apply to him or herself
knows the words but not the song
is constantly imposing on others a false reality made up of distortion and fabrication
sometimes displays a seemingly limitless demonic energy especially when engaged in attention-seeking activities or evasion of accountability and is often a committeeaholic or apparent workaholic ...
...not that this describes anyone we know.
I was concerned for a moment until I read "is vile, vicious and vindictive in private, but innocent and charming in front of witnesses" as I am vile, vicious and vindictive solely when tiling floors with the incompetent Xmastime, in public or private (Interstingly, many have dubbed us Heckle and Jeckyl of home repair).
I did see myself in "will launch an immediate personal attack attempting to restrict what you are if you permitted to say if you start talking knowledgeably about psychopathic personality or antisocial personality disorder in their presence" but I will also launch an immediate personal attack if you start talking about any product that starts with "gyne" or ends with ix" or "ex", whether Wilco is more alt or more country, whether fire can in fact melt steel, or whether Roger Clemens' last outing in Single A was any good.
So wait.....you know this man, Xmas? You TILE floors him? oh, this changes almost everything. So wait...they don't call you Hide (ahem...somebodies butt crack is showing) and Snide?
Wilco is a depressed version of the Beach Boys more than anything.
And can you tell me if F'in A is a slang for....YES?
Gyne is a disgusting prefix.
I know him. I love him. He is my wayward son who I try to guide from the grave.
You're watching too much Sesame Street.
Can we get back to washing Xmastime's nutsack? Jeez Louise! The cut and paste jobs on this thread are killin' me.
thank God fer cutnpastems.
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